20 April, 2013


Mona. Dear. I'm sure you mean well (hell, I hate the NRA, too, and unlike you I actually reside in the nation where its lobbying regularly holds legislation hostage), but... Do you see nothing wrong with your statements here?

It might be one thing if you were attempting to reappropriate pejoratives to use them in a positive way (although, unless you're a "fag" yourself, I think it really isn't your place to do the reappropriating).

But no, you're clearly using these words in a derogatory manner. And, yes, I personally take offense.

"Fag" and "faggot" are two very emotionally charged words, as I'm sure you well know.

I had them flung at me on an almost daily basis during a rather painful period in my life, beginning in grade school and all through high school and beyond, by "friend" and foe alike. That was well before I admitted to myself that I was gay.

Years later, even hearing gay men call each other "faggot" (I knew a number of them who on occasion did) made me cringe.

I myself used the phrase "fag hag" for a time to denote female friends of my own or of other gay men. I don't any longer. It's demeaning and disrespectful to them and... well, I think we've covered the "fag" part already.

Those words are still regularly thrown the way of myself and others, and while they no longer have the power to hurt me the way that they once did, they are most often meant to offend, and offend they do.

I also take exception to your use of the word "gay" as an insult. A word embraced by the gay community as a positive, affirmative term has now been reappropriated as a general term of disparagement by primarily young people, even as others cry that "the homosexuals" have forever "ruined" that "perfectly good" word.

he casual use of homophobic language is "too often seen as harmless banter instead of the offensive insult that it really represents. ... To ignore this problem is to collude in it. The blind eye to casual name-calling, looking the other way because it is the easy option, is simply intolerable."

One would think that someone who is sensitive to such things as the "rape culture" would be sensitive to these things ("homophobic culture", etc.), as well.

Well, dear Mona. FAIL. EPIC fail.

P.S. You might consider that your use (and that of your friends) of the word "retard" and its variants is equally offensive.

P.P.S. It's taken some time for the idea of marriage equality to gain the acceptance that it has thus far. But even I, as a gay man, can understand how some of the older generation might be slow to support it. I hardly think it makes them "stupid".


  1. Excellent post, Griffin. FAIL indeed.

  2. This is an excellent post, Griffin. The real face of Mona, which seemed evident to me from her first post on "rape culture" is emerging at a rate faster than I believe her own head spins. I find this person so deeply repugnant that I don't think any person of any lifestyle should bother themselves with "feeling" anything over what she barfs out. I find so few things online that actually cause me to pang of anger, but this particular individual makes me ashamed of my own sex. I have said it before, and will say it again, this femzilla does not represent me or any woman, hell, human that I know. She is disgusting and exactly what is wrong with this world today. She is an insult to humanity.

    1. I can understand her passion and her desire to see wrongs righted. I can even understand her anger. But she does her message and her "side" no favors.

      Like I told someone on a message board the other day, when he said that he "hope[s] all the homosexuals get AIDS" and didn't care that he "piss[ed] the liberals" off for saying so... Keep it up. As you're busy pissing off "the liberals", you're making "the conservatives" look so good.

      You're right, though, and I don't really "feel" anything, other than that she should be relegated to the lunatic fringe that nobody in their right mind would listen to.